Can I get married?

When I was young, girls were eager to get married almost from the age of seventeen. Almost all girls’ conversations and dreams were about marriage …

Now, not all girls tend to enter into an early marriage.

The more educated the girl, the more purposeful, the more she thinks about getting a good education and building a career.

Having settled on an interesting or prestigious job and having a high income, modern young ladies are increasingly delaying marriage.

I decided to take a closer look at such women and try to understand why financially independent ladies are in no hurry to get married …

In my opinion, many of them do not believe in princes on a white horse and are afraid to make the wrong choice.

After all, if a woman earns decently, she wants a man to earn no less.

What does the word “married” mean? That is, for her husband! A woman, having entered into marriage, shifts all the worries about herself, including material ones, onto the shoulders of her husband?

Now this “married” in the truest sense of the word does not exist for a long time.

A woman not only shifts her worries to a man, she often takes on his problems, both domestic and material.

For example, Marina is 25 years old and she is sure that modern men are not averse to living at the expense of a woman.

In the future, she is going to get married, but with the obligatory conclusion of a marriage contract and so that both spouses allocate the same amount of money for the household, while each has their own personal account in the bank.

In addition, many motivated women are afraid of a bunch of male claims that will prevent them from building a career or doing business.

For example, Irina believes that marriage is bondage for a woman, that housekeeping falls on her shoulders.

She says, — and God forbid you get one who wants homemade borscht, pancakes and other delights, on which his mother raised him.

Ira is absolutely not ready to run a household. She comes home late in the evening and, having had a little rest, is already making work plans for tomorrow.

But she lives in a beautiful apartment, wears expensive clothes, and goes on vacation abroad two or three times a year.

She has boyfriends, but as soon as Irina realizes that the man intends to build a joint nest, or even more so – to stay in her apartment as a legal spouse, she shies away from him like a leper, avoids meetings and does not respond to phone calls.

Many women have tasted the taste of freedom. They like to have not one man, but several.

They do not consider it necessary to please, adapt, tolerate other people’s habits.

While they are free, they do not have to report to anyone, neither when returning home late, nor in financial expenses.

Katya is a beautiful thirty-year-old business woman, and she says so – I can spend as much on myself as I please. And if necessary, I can always find a man.

Alevtina is already forty. She has her own small business.

She was married and even tried to get her husband a good job for two years. But Boris preferred her beer and TV.

She divorced her husband with great difficulty, he did not want to understand what was bad, what did not please his wife, because he only drinks beer, does not cheat, they have money – Alevtina works for two.

Boris agreed not only to wash the dishes, but also to cook dinner. However, Alevtina was adamant.

And now she has been alone for many years. Or rather, not quite alone. She takes lovers who are much younger than her, gives them gifts, takes them on vacation, and then breaks up with them.

Katya has been dating a man who is her equal in position for many years, gets no less, and they have only one year difference in age.

He offered to marry her more than once, but Katya still pulls. She does not tell him no, she assures that she is very good with him, but she does not have the time and energy for a full-fledged marriage.

Judging by the fact that he does not break off relations, he has the same situation, or he loves Katya very much.

Many women who have received a good education and earn decent money are afraid of starting a family. They are not ready to sacrifice their promotion to the top for the sake of a man and children.

“Oh, times! Oh morals! someone will exclaim.

But this is the reality of our time.

And time will not flow back…

Most likely, it will happen that some men will come to the conclusion that a career is not interesting for them, and choose a family. By doing so, they will create a redistribution of roles.

And our women will understand that it is not so bad with their employment and high earnings to have a “home” husband – a house owner.

Not a parasite and a freeloader, but a householder.

After all, raising children, running a household is not an easy job. And why is it bad for a business woman to come home from work and plunge into the world of comfort and love?

It’s not a secret that in many countries in the West it is already now
that dads sit with children, and wives continue their career growth.

And, it seems, everything is going well for them.

In the meantime, in Russia, a husband who often makes little money also shakes his rights, requiring his working wife to run a household and serve his person.

Naturally, a woman has a question – why, in fact, does she need such a treasure?

That’s why the most enviable brides are in no hurry to get married.

In the changed world, in my opinion, the most important thing is mutual respect, the rejection of excessive demands.

It doesn’t matter who earns money and who runs the household. The main thing is that the money is in the house. And the house was cozy, and so that all family members would be warm and joyful in it.